P.S: I am not ressurecting the blog, this is just a one off, though what I said the other day still applies.

So, I set my alarm, got up nice and early, in time to meet J-O at the university coach stop at 12. Shortly after 10am, I txted J-O to check when she arrived (and, to be honest, to see if it was still happening), but got no reply. I wasn’t too worried by this, since I expected she would sleep through the journey (which she later said she had). I left the house about 11:30 and began to walk to the stop (it’s only about 30 mins walk from my house). Shortly after setting off I txted her that I might be a little late. At 11:50, I got a reply. It said “I will get off at the city. First of all I was not planning seeing you, since I did not answer.” Then, presumably in reference to her txts the day before, asked “Yesterday, how did you decide to come?” (we’d argued since she’d said we couldn’t be friends, I said I got it now, that we are just friends, and so we can be). Then she txted “I wanna be on my own, and just to relax”.

It was at that point that I saw the coach coming towards me from the university (I wasn’t there yet, I was on Burgess Road before the university), with her in a seat right at the front. Swearing a lot, I stopped. I turned as it passed. I notice the traffic lights up ahead were on stop. I ran the 0.2 miles (approx from Google Maps) to the traffic lights. A few seconds later the lights turned green, and the coach turned the corner. There was another set of lights, again on red. I ran the 500 feet to there, swearing as I did so, and again the lights went green and the coach went as soon as I got there. I stared at it as it drove along The Avenue and out of sight.

I considered what to do for a few seconds. Do I give up, or do I follow. I said to myself ‘screw it! I came out to see her, and I’ll be damned if I go back home without seeing her! She ruined my day by leaving me, I will ruin her day by finding her!’ So I ran, most of the way at least, down The Avenue towards town, swearing a lot as I did so (today my legs ache from the strain). In about 25 mins I managed to run the approx. 2 miles to the corner of London Road/Cumberland Place (this would normally take about 40 mins). From there I fast-walked into town.

As I walked into town, I decided that to search high and low for her would be fruitless. I decided that the most likely place to spot her would be the Bargate entrance to West Quay; everyone goes there, I figured, most leaving/going in through that entrance, so I was bound to spot her there. I found out later that she had had lunch in KFC, which I fast-walked right past, and had visited the Bargate, which means I missed her going past the Bargate entrance to West Quay (although to be fair I was looking at the doors rather than the pedestrian area beyond). At 1:45pm, about 1 & 1/2 hours after I got there, I decided I’d had enough. I txted her: “Fine. You want to be alone? Be alone. I hope you choke on it.” I immediately left for McDonalds for lunch. It was very busy there so I got a take away meal. As I was walking away I noticed I had a txt from J-O, received just a minute after I sent mine, which said “I am sorry. I think that it just doesn’t work, and I feel bad to make you sad.” I went outside West Quay, sat down on a bench, and replied “if you really cared u would meet me. I am still in town. I was going to show u so many places.”

So I began to eat my McDonalds lunch. 3/4 of the way into my burger and 5 mins later, I got a txt from J-O. It said: “I am at the town quay. it’s so beautiful here.” Immediately I put the remains of my burger in the box, put it and my drink in the bag.  I got up, and legged it as fast as I could. I ran the 1/2 mile to Town Quay in 10 mins. I looked around, but couldn’t see J-O. I txted her “where abouts on town quay.” She replied “you are crazy”. I replied, “I am here.” She txted me, “I want to be alone.” I thought for a few moments. Could it be that she lied about where she was? Then I had a thought, ‘she said town quay, but she might have meant Mayflower Park’, which is right next to Town Quay. So I ran there. As I got to the entrance to the park, I saw a girl walking along the road into the park, towards the edge by the sea. It took me a few seconds to realise it was her. I ran up to her, and simply said “hello”. I was completely out of breath, I had a stitch, and probably a cold McDonalds, but I’d caught up with her. She said “hi”.

We went and sat on a bench. We talked for a little while, with me reeling off facts about Southampton that I’d learnt through reading for one of my units in this semester just gone. This, along with a few other things, made her smile. She said it was nice here; I said it was one of the places I’d planned to bring her. She said she’d already visited the old town. I said that was a shame, because I had information about it that would make it more interesting than just looking around it. I don’t remember her reaction to that. We stayed there for a while before moving into town. I felt a bit ill from running just after eating, but it soon passed. We then visited the old bombed-out church, look a few pictures there (1 or 2 together) then we visited West Quay, doing some shopping. We went to another clothes shop outside West Quay. J-O said she’d found Ann Summers earlier, had never seen what she called “a sex shop” before, saying she wanted to go back for a proper look. So we did.

I couldn’t believe there was a place like that in Britain (I’d never been in an Ann Summers before, though I’d heard about it). I couldn’t believe they were openly selling dildos. J-O curiously went for a look at those particular things; I stayed away. The whole time we were in there, I didn’t know where to look! She spent ages trying to decide what type of underwear she’d jokingly buy a (male) friend of hers, who she said was gay (I refrained from believing or disbelieving it; I decided not to bother thinking about it). It was a choice between and man-thong(?) and boxers with suggestive designs (e.g. a picture of a cockrel with “look at my cock” or similar written on it). We spent the last 2 hours in the Yates pub along there. She ordered one round; a cup of tea for her and a Fosters for me; I ordered the other; half a Fosters for me and a hot chocolate for her. We sat opposite each other and talked about uni, jobs and her desires for visiting various places in Europe. She said she really liked Southampton, thought it was better than Cambridge, which she’s visited. She said she’d like to come back when the weather was nicer (it was blowing a hooley yesterday, especially at Mayflower Park).

At about 5:45 we left the pub for the coach station. Since she’d originally planned to get off and on from the university she didn’t know what time it would leave the city depot, which is why we left so early. As it turns out, it didn’t leave until about 6:20, though she could get on about 5 mins before that. For that half an hour we leant against a wall (the small ticket office building being shut by that time). After a few mins, she said she was cold, and I put an arm around her. She didn’t seem to mind, so I kept it here. She even slightly adjusted her position for it to be more comfortable. At one point she apologised for “making you wait in the cold”; I said I didn’t mind. She asked how I was getting back, I said I was walking. She apologised for making me walk. I said it was fine. At 6:15 the coach approached from the other side of the coach station and she got on. I left for home. As I left I remembered how she always asked me to txt her when I got home, always to ask if she got home ok, so I txted her asking if she’d txt me when she got home. She txted back that she would.

Overall, it was nice once we got together. We seemed to get on well. I took it with a large pinch of salt though. I thought it would probably be the last time I saw her. But today she added me back on fb and although she didn’t upload any of the photos of us together, she did upload one photo with me in. So we’re friends now, it seems, though not ‘good friends’, probably. I don’t know what’s going to happen. I still might not see her again. Oh well, at least I have her as a friend. I’m now pretty sure I am over her now, in the sense that I didn’t feel like I loved her any more when I looked at her, unlike on Monday and Tuesday (16th & 17th January). I hope we can be good friends, though I doubt she’ll feel that way. Who knows. Oh well. Time to get on with my life.

1) I may return to the blog if I feel like it. This may only be a temporary break, if I can think of new, interesting things to post about.

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When we walked to the train station together, I asked her why she’d asked me, just before we went to bed the night before, how I felt about her. She said she didn’t know why she asked. She said that she remembers her old relationship fondly, wished she had the same thing now. But she said that she didn’t see herself going into a relationship while she is at university in London, because everybody lives so far away from each other, compared to her old boyfriend who lived just 30 mins walking distance from her house in Bulgaria. I took a sort of solace in this, though was skeptical as to if she would still think that if some nice guy came along.

This time I managed not to cry when we parted. I did apparently look upset though, as she told me: “don’t worry, we will see each other on Saturday, it’s not long”. (She is not staying for the night, she decided.) Yet all through my train journey, and my 25 min walk home, I was fighting back tears. When I got home (the house was empty), I cried for about 15 mins. Not because me and J-O are now seriously just friends. I’d expected that to come eventually, even if not so soon. It’s because I suddenly felt so alone, I suddenly realised fully that I was alone again. It was because I realised that there was no prospect of meeting another girl who liked me for ages, that I’ve wasted pretty much 2 years of my life revolving around this one girl, and now there’s nobody else left.

Since J-O took over the blog anyway, and that’s now ending, I feel it’s time to bring this blog to a close. It’s deteriorated pretty badly in the last year. Not in terms of views, which have gone up, but in terms of content. It’s become all about J-O, a never-ending cycle that was boring and frustrating many readers. It’s burnt me out of blogging, at least for a while. I will leave this blog here, I won’t delete it, so others can read it. I may yet come back to blogging and, if so, will post the link to my new blog here. But I think it’s time to move on. I think it will also help with my personal problems as, if anything, this blog has made me more focused on the details of what troubling me, causing me to focus on them more, in a never-ending spiral. Maybe if I stop thinking so many about things in this blog, I can stop being so uptight, begin to loosen up. Who knows, I may yet return here in something interesting happens. Certainly I will post when I graduate from uni, to bring it to a proper closure.

Lastly, I’d like to thanks all my regular followers and commentors, who have shared their wisdom, some of which was used, others of which were discarded, perhaps wrongly. Thank you for being interested in my life, at least. I wish you all the best of luck in yours.

Goodbye, at least for now,

AnonymousTeenager

Then I saw that my friend’s band were playing a gig in London next weekend, and decided to txt J-O about it, see if she wanted to go (though I said we can go with her friends to make it more acceptable, just in case). She said it would be “awesome” and that she would like to go. The next day I got a txt from her which ended in “love you”, and I unfortunately immediately replied, with “love you, miss you” at the end. A minute later she txted back that it was meant for her flatmate. I really hated myself then, I knew I should of waited. But then she txted me “miss you tho!”, so it wasn’t too bad. I did apologise though. Later she asked what I was doing, and said she’d been out getting a present for the guy that gave her the necklace. I decided to be a gentleman and just said “nice, hope it goes well or whatever”.

After that I spent a few hours in the uni library doing work. I txted her what I was doing but got no response for 3 hours, which got me worried. But then she txted that she didn’t reply because she was in the pub with her roommate, who went home afterwards (instead of back to her halls). It’s at that point that I decided not to worry about this guy, whoever he is.

Then at 9:30pm I got a call. It was from J-O (according to my phone, the call lasted 20 minutes). She was upset, she was even crying a little, because of the uni work she was doing, and because she was alone. She said that she wished I lived in London, that I could see her more often. She said she likes it when there are lots of people around. She said that she had a great time over New Year. She asked about my night out the other night, and I said that it would be nice if we went clubbing together one day. She said it would be “awesome”. She said sorry that she didn’t txt me back quicker, but that she’d left her phone at home. I said that she shouldn’t worry about it, that I don’t mind if she doesn’t txt me back straight away. She asked me, in a hurt-sounding voice, “what do you mean you don’t mind?”, as if I wasn’t that bothered about her and me, or something. I just said that I mind, of course, but that she shouldn’t worry about it, because it wasn’t deliberate. She said she was joking; I didn’t believe her. She said she wished I could see her on Friday (today), but I had work. I suggested the weekend; she said she’d have to see what her roommate is doing. I almost asked her what present she got the guy, but then I said “nevermind”. She asked me what it was, and I said I couldn’t say because she might get angry. She insisted I say what I wanted to say. I did. She said she got him a t-shirt. Now, correct me if I’m wrong, but buying a t-shirt for a guy who has given you a necklace isn’t a positive sign (for the guy), right? I asked if she liked him, and she said “I don’t know. He’s nice.” That’s all she said. Doesn’t sound too bad, though she could by lying. She then said that it was great that I was available to talk when she was upset. I simply said that I wished I could be there for her in real life more often. Then as we finished up the conversation I said “miss you”. She immediatly said “what do you mean, you miss me? I’m right here?” I said, taken aback, “it doesn’t matter”. Again she said “it’s okay, I was joking”, and again I didn’t believe her. We said goodbye and that was that.

Then, as I was getting ready for bed she called me again. She called me to say that the books I helped her photocopy when I went to see her a few times ago were really useful. She said she just called to “share how excited” she was about it. Soon after she txted me asking me when I added on fb the roommate’s friend she didn’t like, and I just said it was a few days ago, and that I only did it so as not to be rude, to spare J-O’s feelings.

Later, when I was about to go to bed, I called her. During the call she asked me again if I liked that girl (the roommate’s friend), and I just replied “there is only one girl I like”. She asked “is it me?” I said yes. She said it was “nice, thanks”. “I like you too” was conspicuous by it’s absence. The absence of this phrase got me thinking: all the above things can easily be interpreted in a friend-like way, rather than a romantic-like way. I’m not sure. What do you guys think? Please leave a comment!

I think in the very least though that there’s no real reason for me to worry about this guy. It looks like she doesn’t like him that much. We’ll just have to see, I suppose.

So, that’s just great! Just as things between us seemed to be looking up, this has happened. It looks like she’ll finally be out of my hands for good; if they do get together, which by the sound of it she wants to, that’s me out of the window completely. She now won’t consider staying over my house when she comes to Southampton: if she comes at all. I know they aren’t together yet; I’m being very pessimistic. Yet I suspect that in the next few days it will happen. Fuck my life. Fuck my life!

I’m not sure if I made it clear but J-O did ask me several times if I was sure I wanted to go, and even asked me a few times if I could stay, while I was still in her halls in the evening. I said it was best not to because I wouldn’t get much sleep and needed to work the next day.

When I was heading towards the station to go home, with J-O with me, she said that she would just see me to the end of this road, which was just around the corner from Waterloo. I said that was fine with me, but as we neared the end of the road, I could feel my eyes starting to well up. Only a little – I hoped she wouldn’t notice because I didn’t really want to show her how strongly I still feel about her. As we stopped at the end of the road and we turned to each other to say goodbye, it began to get a little worse. She asked if I was okay and I said I was fine. But then a tear or two managed to escape my eyes. She asked why I was crying and I said it didn’t matter. She said that she would go with me all the way to the barriers at the station, and joked that “it was just to get me to come the whole way with you, wasn’t it?”. So we went into the station and prepared to say goodbye once more. She again asked if I wanted to stay, but I again said no.

J-O said the other day that she is considering staying over at mine when she comes to Southampton.

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Me vs roommate: J-O said that she has been living with her roommate for months, and in comparison “you are like a stranger to me.” Her roommate also seems to know, at the very least, that I like J-O. She said something along those lines on the first day, though I can’t remember now exactly what she said.

J-O vs roomate’s friend: J-O’s roommate had 2 friends, one of which stayed over in J-O’s room on Saturday night, while her roomate and other friend slept in a friend’s room. J-O complained that when the beds were put together (which was J-O’s idea) that the friend was too close to me. J-O said she was annoyed when her roommate’s friend hugged me when we were out on Westminster Bridge (when J-O was dancing with random guys!), because “she shouldn’t hug somebody she doesn’t know. Doesn’t she know that you are mine?” I asked J-O if I was only her’s when I got close to another girl. She replied that “you can do what you want. Just it did not make me feel good.” Hypocritical much?

Me and roommate’s friend: I somehow ended up telling the basics of me and J-O to her. She said she could relate to my problem and tried to give me advice. I thought she seemed nice, since she was interested in my problems with J-O, but J-O and J-O’s roommate’s other friend didn’t like her. When J-O said she didn’t like her I said thought she was nice. J-O immediately asked “do you like her?”, to which I replied, “I don’t like like her, I just think she seemed nice.” She seemed satisfied with this.

Me and J-O: she only let me kiss her on the lips a few times. When we were sleeping together I did most of the hugging and almost all of the (non-lip) kissing, though she always wanted to intwine her legs with mine whenever we moved. She was wearing just a t-shirt (my Christmas present to her) and (purple, sort of lacey) panties and I started off staying fully clothed. About halfway through the night she suggested I take my trousers off, and I did; later I decided to take my shirt off, too, leaving me wearing just pants. She got up a few times for various reasons, and it was so sexy watching her move in just that; especially when she had to bent over once or twice. She let me touch her though (not like her boobs or lady-parts but anywhere else) and once, when I had my hand on her bottom, she asked how it was. I said it was very nice, it was sexy. I asked if she minded me touching her there, and she said she didn’t mind. We did kiss on the lips at midnight, the first time I have done such a thing. We watched two films together and both times she was very content to snuggle up with me.  Once I put my finger on her lips and she sort of licked it, which was sexy. Her snuggling up to me, hugging me, closing her eyes as she did so, sometimes falling asleep, was cute, but I couldn’t help thinking it was a bit selfish; she could take advantage of me being there, could snuggle up with me, lean on me, not be lonely, yet I was not able, mostly, to kiss her on the lips, or do anything to please me; all I could do was to enjoy her presence, kiss her on the forehead or cheek, not dare, apart from once or twice, to kiss her on the lips. Again when we slept together I hardly got any sleep.

J-O stuff: I learned she kissed random boys in clubs before. When we were on Westminster Bridge after the fireworks (we couldn’t get there before the fireworks, though we could sort of see them where we were) she danced with a lot of random guys and said happy new year to basically everyone she passed by. She wanted me to stay the night again on Sunday night, but I thought there would not be much point cos I wouldn’t get much sleep and have to do uni work the next day. After I texted her that I got home safely, she called me to see how I was. In the background I could hear her roommate shouting occasionally, and I heard that the three of them (the other friend had gone by then) had a bath together and that they had “seen her cooker”. J-O asked what it meant and it was her, ahem, ‘lady-parts’. On fb chat this morning I joked that when I heard that, ‘I wish I had stayed in the end’.

On her coming over on 21st: her roommate’s friend was from Southampton, it turned out. We started talking about J-O coming to Southampton and J-O told her about the fact she would be only there for 6 hours. J-O’s roommate’s friend then offered for J-O to stay the night at hers, since J-O wasn’t comfortable staying at mine (supposedly because she didn’t want the first time she met my parents to be when she was sleeping over, because they might not like her. I tried to say it was ok, but she wouldn’t concede on this). J-O said she had already booked the coach tickets. Today I found out that if J-O cancelled the tickets 72 hours before her coach was due, she would receive a full refund. I said about this on chat and she said: “mmmm okay. lets discuss it tonight okay. please remind me”. I said ok. I doubt she will go for it, and if she does I am sure she would still insist on staying at her roommate’s friend house not mine. At least she’s prepared to talk about it though.